The song "Obsesión" was very famous when I was in High School and I believe that it describes the love that China and Jermey believed that they had in the short story "The Love of My Life." The group that sings the song was a group called Aventura and they sang songs in the Bachata genre. “The Love of My Life” is a story about a couple who believe that they are truly in love with each other. They do everything together just like a married couple does. They live their life showing their love for one on another to everyone that knows them. China and Jermey expressed their love in a way that feels unsafe and unreal since their so-called love seems more like an obsession from both of them. China and Jermey went camping together and spent the night together without being safe and ended up with an unplanned and unwanted baby. The couple felt that their love was really strong and that it could accomplish anything as long as they were both together. Their beliefs were not true since they ended up ruining both their lives for their selfish decision that they made regarding the baby that they had.
Just Too Smart
China and Jermey’s love story was a relationship that many young couples go through. Wanting to be together all day as boyfriend and girlfriend is common since couples feel happy when they are together. China and Jermey’s relationship was a relationship that was very intense from the beginning. Their relationship between boyfriend and girlfriend seems more of a married couple’s relationship. Reading their love story made me realize that there are many relationships everywhere like their relationship. High school kids who are boyfriend and girlfriend feel the need to be in contact with each other at all times. I have a niece who had a relationship with her boyfriend very similar to China and Jermey’s relationship. The huge difference is that my niece noticed that her boyfriend was toxic with her and he would tell her that she belonged to him. She was smart to realize that he was controlling her life and decided to leave her boyfriend and move on. I believe that both China and Jermey were to be blamed for how their story ended. They were supposed to be careful and avoid China getting pregnant. Their parents were to be blamed as well. They were supposed to put limits to their relationship. They both decided on going forward with the pregnancy as well as getting rid of the baby when she was born. They both expressed how smart they were but they weren't smart enough to think of the consequences of their actions of murdering the baby. I agree that teen pregnancy sounds scary but being considered a murderer should have been more scary to them. Teenagers who become parents usually struggle in the beginning but eventually learn to become successful parents. Jermey and China’s decision of getting rid of their baby was horrible and selfish since they never cared about their baby.
They Wore Each Other Like a Pair of Socks
The story “The Love of My Life” is a story that is unbelievable but happens very often. Young high school and young adult couples tend to fall in love in a way that is unsafe for the mental stability since they give their one hundred percent in the relationship. Couples do everything with their boyfriend/girlfriend and forget to protect and love themselves. Three passages that I compared the story to the “Obsession” song that I decided to write about are; “ “I love you,” he told her, because he did, because there was no feeling like this, no triumph, no high—it was like being immortal and unconquerable, like floating.” (T.C. Boyle). “They wore each other like a pair of socks. He was at her house, he was at his.” (T.C Boyle). “He drove her car, slept on the couch in the family room at her parents’ house, played tennis and watched football with her father on the big, thirty-six-inch TV in the kitchen.” (T.C. Boyle). The part of the lyrics to the song that I feel describes China and Jermey’s relationship is, “No, it is not love, what you feel, is called obsession, An illusion in your thought, That makes you do things, That’s how the heart works.” China and Jermey are obsessed with each other.
No Peace
The song "Obsesión" by Aventura is about a man obsessed with his ex-girlfriend. In the song, the man looks for his ex-girlfriend and does things that show his obsession for her. The lyrics that I feel that fit perfect with China and Jermey’s relation are the following:
It’s five in the morning and I have not slept at all
Thinking about your beauty, Like a crazy, I’m going to stop
Insomnia is my punishment, your love will be my relief
And until you are mine I will not live in peace
No, it is not love, what you feel, is called obsession,
An illusion in your thought,
That makes you do things,
That’s how the heart works.
Well dressed in my Lexus, I passed by your school
They informed me that you left, like a madman I went to reach you
I looked for you and I did not find you and that made me worried
To calm my anxiety I wanted to call you.
Beautiful and Hurtful
Aventura was a Spanish Dominican American bachata style group who sang songs of love and breakups of relationships. The lead singer of the group was Romeo Santos. Romeo Santos is the writer of the song and was the lead member of the group. The song “Obsesion” (Obsession) helped the group reach fame which helped them receive awards at music awards in different countries. The group released an English version of the song in their second album which also received attention from the group's followers. The group broke up in 2011 and most of the members went solo and continued their music career. The group had seven albums which all of them were very famous. Aventura’s albums are mostly songs of love and breakups which is why I felt that the song “Obsession” fit in perfectly for China and Jermey’s story together. The song reminds of China and Jermey in “The Love of My Life” since they seem to be fully in love while in reality they are truly obsessed with one another and wanting to be together all the time. Love is beautiful when it is real but could be hurtful and problematic if both partners are not happy together.
Sad Story Hits Home
The story “The Love of My Life” is a sad story for me since the couple suffers for their mistakes that they did together. Couples meet each other and hope to find love, the type of love that starts families. I believe that couples that start wrong as boyfriend and girlfriends end up bad since they go through toxic relationships when they are together. Couples should be smart when meeting each other and decide whether staying together is a good option or not. I have a sister who has a toxic relationship with her husband who has mistreated her all of their married life. My sister believes that her husband will eventually change with her but it's been more than twenty years and he shows no signs of a possible change. My sister, just like Jermey and China, doesn't love herself and chooses to suffer in her married relationship with her husband. My sister is clearly obsessed with having her husband as her life partner which is bad, toxic and hurtful.
“Obsesion” Aventura | “Obsession” | The Love of My Life |
Son las cinco de la mañana y no he dormido nada, Pensando en tu belleza, loco, voy a parar El insomnio es mi castigo, tu amor será mi alivio Y hasta que no seas mia no vivire en paz |
It’s five in the morning and I have not slept at all Thinking about your beauty, Like a crazy, I’m going to stop Insomnia is my punishment, your love will be my relief And until you are mine I will not live in peace |
“ “I love you,” he told her, because he did, because there was no feeling like this, no triumph, no high—it was like being immortal and unconquerable, like floating.” (T.C. Boyle) |
No, no es amor, lo que tu sientes, se llama obsesión, Una ilusión, en tu pensamiento, Que te hace hacer cosas, Así funciona el corazón. |
No, it is not love, what you feel, is called obsession, An illusion in your thought, That makes you do things, That’s how the heart works |
“They wore each other like a pair of socks. He was at her house, he was at his.” (T.C Boyle) |
Bien vestido y en mi Lexus pase por tu colegio Informan que te fuiste, como loco te fui a encontrar Te busque y no te encontraba, y eso me preocupaba Para calmar mi ansia yo te queria llamar |
Well dressed in my Lexus, I passed by your school They informed me that you left, like a madman I went to reach you I looked for you and I did not find you and that made me worried To calm my anxiety I wanted to call you |
“He drove her car, slept on the couch in the family room at her parents’ house, played tennis and watched football with her father on the big, thirty-six-inch TV in the kitchen.” (T.C. Boyle) |
Works Cited
“The Story of a Song: Obsesion - Aventura.” CMF Radio, radio.callmefred.com/en/song_story/obsesion-aventura/. Accessed 17 May 2023.
Aventura. “Obsesion” We Broke The Rules, Premium Latin Music, 2002.
"Aventura — Obsesion ft. (Judy Santos) (Video Oficial)." Youtube.Com, uploaded by Aventura, 23 April 2019,https://youtu.be/8_QY5gFQUTgLinks to an external site.. Accessed 23 May 2023.